Twenty-Second Post: Guest Blog for Kayla Lords

I’ve written a guest blog for Kayla Lord’s website about squirting. 

Kayla and I met at Eroticon and we ate lunch together which for me was a moment of secondary-school-sit-with-us-at-lunch-type acceptance. Except we talked about squirting. I was inspired to write this blog for her, which describes an experience I had some years ago. 

A huge thank you to Kayla for publishing this blog. You can follow her on Twitter or check out the rest of her website for some really hot reading. 

Read my post here.

The Man In The Suit Who Came For Tea

This is a blog dedication to @blacknightseve, who became my 200th follower on Sunday. His commission was “The Man in the Suit Who Came To Tea”, which inspired me to write up this memory from a few years ago: 
  
Sir came over after late on Friday night. He had been out at the pub and I had spent the evening cleaning my flat. I tidied up the kitchen and arranged my room according to the instructions Sir had sent to me. As well as the lists of subtle instruments of pain he would like to have at hand, he instructed that when he arrives at my flat, he would like a cup of tea.

A few minutes before midnight I am waiting in the kitchen. Everything is ready. The tiled floor is pleasantly chill under my bare feet. I have set out a cup, teabag, milk and spoon for him. The kettle is filled, but unboiled. The bedroom beyond is prepared and he will take me there when he deems it time.

The doorbell shocks me. I hurry to let him in and then he is suddenly in my kitchen. He allows me to step to him and undo the buttons of his dark coat. I feel the metal against my fingers and slip it through the buttonhole over and over, not daring to look up at him. Under his coat he is precisely dressed; shirt, trousers and waistcoat neatly fitted to his body.

I stand at the kitchen side and wait for the kettle to boil. He isn’t paying me any attention and I can feel his apathy waiting for me on the sofa.

I bring his cup of tea to him and sit by his feet. I hear the teaspoon gently clink against the porcelain as he stirs the drink a little. Two taps as he removes the spoon and I am told to stand in front of him.

“Lift your dress,” he tells me.

I gather my skirts and raise the material above my knees.

“Higher.”

My thighs are now visible to him but he is still unsatisfied.

“Higher.”

I lift the material all the way up. I am exposing my knickers – white ones as requested.

“Bend over.”

I curve at the waist and feel the shame play with the blood in my cheeks.

The clinking starts again, two taps.

A silence where I don’t understand what is happening and then I feel it.

Heat and shock kisses my skin. He is pressing the heated teaspoon into my thigh. I gasp a little and try not to flinch. I meet the pain and feel it shoot adrenaline through my body.

The spoon clatters to the tile floor. He sips his tea and I wait, trembling, for his next instructions.

A big thank you to @blacknightseve for his suggestion, and for helping me recall this episode from my days as a submissive. It has been a pleasure to write and I hope you find it a pleasure to read.
Jenn x

Twelfth Post – Happy Birthday Porn Protest!

A year ago we assembled at Old Palace Yard in Westminster to protest against the changes in the law banning certain sexual acts 

The Audiovisual Media Services Regulations 2014 which bans sex involving using bondage and/or gags, fisting, facesitting, urination, female ejaculation and spanking or caning beyond moderation was brought into effect on 1st December 2014 – without any public consultation. 

On 12th December 2014 we gathered together to show our frustrations, to meet other like minded people and to whip up a media frenzy to raise awareness of the suppression of sexual and creative freedoms within independent pornography. I covered the event in my blog last year.

In the following months I interviewed Courtney Trouble and Jiz Lee for a small series of posts on the changes in legislation called Criminal Behaviours and wrote a guest blog on consent for a Girl on the Net. It formed a huge part of my writing in the past year, and when I got the email from Charlotte Rose announcing a second protest I cleared my Saturday afternoon and dug out my warmest jumper for more activism in the cold.

Exactly one year on, we gathered back together in the same place to show our solidarity and defiance against the threat to our sexual freedom.

Charlotte Rose, organiser of both Porn Protest 2014 and 2015, is keen to raise as much public awareness as possible on the changing laws.

“If we stop fighting, the next generation will have nothing left to protect,” she explains.

“The excuse of ‘protect the children’ is the only reasoning that the government claim, yet all children that want further information about sex are being denied this education in school.”

The Internet provides a resource to learn about anything you could think of, but when it becomes the only method to learn about sex this warps our understanding of a fundamental human impulse. Both young people and adults stand to suffer if we remain silent about sex and let erotic entertainment perpetuate misconceptions about sexual expression. 
 Charlotte Rose adds “the attack on consensual activities is growing. If we don’t do something now we will be put into sexual oppression and no government has the right to take your personal liberties away!”
There were speeches from key players in the fight against the legislation at the protest, such as Jerry Barnett from Sex and Censorship, Jane Fae of Backlash and obscenity lawyer Myles Jackman. We also heard from representatives from the NHS, a plethora of sex workers and a women’s sexuality group which had not existed this time last year. It was inspiring and galvanising to witness speeches from these men and women.

Pandora Blake, who was present at last year’s protest, is an erotic artist, producing, directing and performing in films featuring spanking – illegal since December 2014. She has been a visible public advocate of sexual expression since, had sent a message from her holiday to be read out at the protest.
Pandora’s website, Dreams of Spanking, was shut down in August 2015. We spoke before the protest about her experiences in the past year. 

“When the regulations came in I wasn’t sure how they would play out in practice. Sometimes vaguely worded or ill-thought out laws are brought in, but not actively enforced. However, the enforcement was far swifter, and more heavy handed, than I expected.”

During the several months of investigation, with the support from Backlash and Myles Jackman, Pandora fougaht the actions every step of the way. The final decision was given in August and the website was taken offline. Pandora remembers being informed of the investigation swiftly after appearing on a panel on pornography for BBC Radio 4 Women’s Hour. 

“It seems likely that my public criticism of the new regulations brought me to ATVOD’s attention,” she concludes.

“Many of my fellow pornographers who distribute similar work depicting spanking that leaves lasting marks have not yet been contacted, so it’s hard not to see it as political censorship.”

This targeting reflects a growing concern that it isn’t about the content, but how we publicly express our rights to sexual freedom. Pornography is only the first step on a much more sinister journey to suppress freedom of speech. Encouraging people to speak out against restrictions on UK pornography is problematic in that barely anybody will admit they consume any kind of erotic media. 

It is important to keep having these conversations, with as many people you feel comfortable with, to make as many people as possible aware of how online expression is being affected. We cannot leave it to porn producers and sex workers to fight for our rights as consumers of online media. This has the potential to affect everybody, and you know you will miss it if (/when) it goes.

Follow Charlotte Rose on Twitter, check out Sex and Censorship and Backlash‘s websites and join the conversation.

Criminal Behaviours – Ban This Sick Filth

So I’m a little late to the party, but this totally merits blogging about:

There is a compilation of all recently banned acts available to enjoy. American producers Courtney Trouble and Kitty Stryker have joined forces with UK producer Pandora Blake to create Ban This Sick Filth; part-documentary, part sex tape response to the changes in UK law.

Think of it as a sexumentary.

“A compilation of films and interviews on porn censorship and its impact in the UK and USA, “Ban This Sick Filth!” is a political and sexual revolution.” – Ban This Sick Filth

DVD_wrap_templateI recently featured Courtney Trouble and Kitty Stryker in my blog on female ejaculation. Trouble mentioned this project in her interview and its fantastic to see it is now a reality. The project is available to either download or own on DVD.

Pandora Blake has also released this video blog, featured on the compilation, which outlines the changes in the law and how it affects her as a fetish porn producer in the UK. It is well worth a watch. A written account of her involvement in the project is also available here.

“This is the sort of resistance I like best: rebelling against censorship by deliberately distributing banned material, combined with fundraising and education about the issues.”– Pandora Blake

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This response communicates how resilient, creative and eloquent producers in the porn industry are. These laws affect the kinky, queer and feminist film makers way more than the dreaded mainstream hardcore porn makers. It is great to see how we can argue our case for accessible, sex-positive porn, which embraces all niches in a safe sane and consensual way.

Ban This Sick Filth beautifully demonstrates how we can effectively communicate our point of view, as well as demonstrate how much fun these fully consensual acts can be.

Ban This Sick Filth is available to buy via this link.

Follow Courtney Trouble, Kitty Stryker and Pandora Blake on Twitter.

Third Post – #PornProtest

Today I participated in my very first demonstration.

Charlotte Rose has organised a protest against the new legislation banning a whole heap of kinky acts from online pornography.

I donned my warmest jumper (it has a naked lady on it) and headed off to Westminster. I had planned to take a lovely banner which I was sewing all day yesterday – but my sewing machine gave up halfway through and despite my hand-sewing efforts, it wasn’t finished in time.

Nevertheless, I had a fantastic time meeting people. Having my hands free meant I could take lots of lovely photos and meet some fabulous kinky folk.

There were speeches and then a mass face sitting accompanied by Monty Python’s Sit On My Face.

Face-sitting at Westminster.

Face-sitting at Westminster.

The first thing I noticed was how many members of the press there were. At the start of the protest the photographers outnumbered the demonstrators! Every time a pair of people engaged in face-sitting the photographers swarmed around the protesters. I loved listening in to the interviews and watching all the photographers trying to get the best possible shot.

It was so encouraging to see so many people gathered together to protest. I had a really positive time meeting new people and talking about sex, the law and one lengthy conversation about grammar! It wasn’t kinky – we just like good grammar.

Props must go to Zoe Bloom and Grayce Collis who dis-robed in the chilly December afternoon to protest with a little kinky fun – the cameras went nuts.

Grayce and Zoe braving the cold.

Grayce and Zoe braving the cold.

It was a pleasant day all round, very cold but the atmosphere was one of unity – of our will to fight the legislation – and diversity – of kink, sexuality, background and involvement with the porn industry.

For a first protest it was a really positive experience. After the recent die-in at Westfield White City and the subsequent arrests I was nervous about going. Protests can be scary. I remember when I had just graduated from university; the chaos that ensued during the demonstrations opposing the rise in student fees. Part of me wasn’t sure if I should go along, but I really wanted to go. I wanted be part of this and meet like-minded people and talk about how they feel about how these new laws. I experienced just that; I’m glad I went.

Our demonstration went quietly – maybe because the idea of dozens of people sitting on other people’s faces is amusing; something that shouldn’t be taken seriously.But the turnout was fantastic. There is a growing concern within the community that if these laws are passed without any opposition, the government will continue to pass stricter and stricter laws until personal sexual freedom is completely compromised.

The more we talk about these things, the less taboo they may seem. The more we contextualise kinky sex through frank discussion and proper sexual education for young people, the less scary these acts may seem to the outside eye. Keep discussing these new laws, contact your MP, sign the petition.

A huge thank you to Charlotte Rose for leading the protest and to everyone who came out to support the event.

My banner

My banner

See coverage from Channel 4, BBC and The Guardian here.

Second Post – Guest Blog on @girlonthenet

Girl on the Net has just published my second guest blog on her website. You can read it here.

It’s a fluffy piece on withdrawing consent in honour of the new porn laws released on the 1st December 2014. While the issue of giving/withdrawing consent is a tough one, this new law criminalises people make safe, sane and consensual kinky films as harshly as film-makers who force the same acts on unwilling participants.

BDSM is such an important part of my own sexual identity and this influences the pornography I enjoy (more to follow on that subject I’m sure). To consider that the government is now prohibiting work from the ethical, feminist and sex-positive studios I enjoy watching feels like shaming on such a higher level. It makes me deeply uncomfortable.

There is a petition you can sign, and a protest on the 12th December in London. If these laws affect your sexual enjoyment, speak out now, before legislation gets so prohibitive that you can’t enjoy play with a consenting partner in the privacy of your own home.

I’m going to go along to the protest – my first demonstration but one I believe so firmly in, I can’t let it pass me by.

I’ll let you know how it goes!