Twenty-Ninth Post: Smutathon Begins

It is just after twelve. I am sat on a sofa in a flat in London. Notebook, computer, post its and green tea. The very first Smutathon has begun. 

Smutathon, founded by Coffee and Kink, is an 12-hour intensive sex writing challenge. Each of the writers – and we have writers in Australia, America and the UK – are dedicating twelve hours to writing about sex. Some of us are setting specific targets, others are embarking on new project or bringing together ideas that have been forming for some time. 

We are receiving donations through Just Giving until Monday. Half the total will go to Rape Crisis England and Wales, a feminist organisation that exists to promote the needs and rights of those who have experienced sexual violence. The other half is going to Backlash, an organisation dedicated to campaigning for sexual freedom for consenting adults, as well as providing legal support for sexual minorities. 

I am so happy to be involved in this first writing event. We’ve been going for about an hour now. I’m feeling incredibly fortunate to be sat amongst sex writers collaborating for such worthy causes. I get to write about a subject I love, for causes I am passionate about. Pretty good Saturday so far. 

Please follow our progress on Twitter #Smutathon2017 and donate through Just Giving. Your support means everything to us. 

Twenty-Eighth Post: Sexy Summer Book Club

Coffee and Kink and I met at Eroticon this year. We decided to create a book club for this summer and we’re so excited to launch the website today!

The Sexy Summer Book Club is a celebration of new erotic writing. Each month of summer we’ll be discussing, and writing about, a recent publication from memoir, self help and erotica. 

You can get involved by emailing sexysummerbookclub@gmail.com to be added to our mailing list. 

We’re also announcing the book for June; Girl on the Net’s How a Bad Girl Fell in Love. Our website offers prompt questions and suggestions for response pieces. Send us your responses and we’ll publish them online in June. More books will be announced over the summer. 

The Amorist Magazine

This is a blog dedication to @amorist_the, who became my 250th Twitter follower earlier this month. They asked for a blog to celebrate the release of their new magazine, The Amorist, so I was more than happy to download the free sample and offer a mini review in anticipation of the first issue hitting the shelves. 

The Amorist is a collection of erotic literature, art and articles. It is edited by Rowan Pelling, who I met briefly at Eroticon this year. Rowan sat on the Pitching Panel and offered some great advice on how to approach editors. 

The sample of The Amorist, available here, is gorgeous. A mix of illustrations and photographs adorn the pages, the overall feeling is of elegance. There are articles about iconic works of erotic literature such as a piece on Lady Chatterly’s Lover, features on the femmes fatales of the Special Operations Executives of WW2 and a column from a sexy writing favourite of mine, Girl on the Net, greeted me from the pages of this publication. 

My favourite article was by Isobel Williams on the subject of Japanese rope bondage. The piece describes an evening spent at a pub in London, in the presences of riggers and bunnies – or tops and bottoms – all is explained deftly in Williams’ article. I found my absolute favourite quote halfway through: “The fetish community as a whole may be regarded as the nerds of the sexual universe but they themselves dismiss Japanese rope bondage fans as the ultimate trainspotters.”

The Amorist is offering six issues for a mere £6, that’s £1 for a magazine filled with beautiful artwork and provocative reading. You can take advantage of this offer here, or pop down to your local WH Smith’s for a copy from today. 

Just imagine picking up a copy of this along with your Guardian…

Twenty-Second Post: Guest Blog for Kayla Lords

I’ve written a guest blog for Kayla Lord’s website about squirting. 

Kayla and I met at Eroticon and we ate lunch together which for me was a moment of secondary-school-sit-with-us-at-lunch-type acceptance. Except we talked about squirting. I was inspired to write this blog for her, which describes an experience I had some years ago. 

A huge thank you to Kayla for publishing this blog. You can follow her on Twitter or check out the rest of her website for some really hot reading. 

Read my post here.

The Man In The Suit Who Came For Tea

This is a blog dedication to @blacknightseve, who became my 200th follower on Sunday. His commission was “The Man in the Suit Who Came To Tea”, which inspired me to write up this memory from a few years ago: 
  
Sir came over after late on Friday night. He had been out at the pub and I had spent the evening cleaning my flat. I tidied up the kitchen and arranged my room according to the instructions Sir had sent to me. As well as the lists of subtle instruments of pain he would like to have at hand, he instructed that when he arrives at my flat, he would like a cup of tea.

A few minutes before midnight I am waiting in the kitchen. Everything is ready. The tiled floor is pleasantly chill under my bare feet. I have set out a cup, teabag, milk and spoon for him. The kettle is filled, but unboiled. The bedroom beyond is prepared and he will take me there when he deems it time.

The doorbell shocks me. I hurry to let him in and then he is suddenly in my kitchen. He allows me to step to him and undo the buttons of his dark coat. I feel the metal against my fingers and slip it through the buttonhole over and over, not daring to look up at him. Under his coat he is precisely dressed; shirt, trousers and waistcoat neatly fitted to his body.

I stand at the kitchen side and wait for the kettle to boil. He isn’t paying me any attention and I can feel his apathy waiting for me on the sofa.

I bring his cup of tea to him and sit by his feet. I hear the teaspoon gently clink against the porcelain as he stirs the drink a little. Two taps as he removes the spoon and I am told to stand in front of him.

“Lift your dress,” he tells me.

I gather my skirts and raise the material above my knees.

“Higher.”

My thighs are now visible to him but he is still unsatisfied.

“Higher.”

I lift the material all the way up. I am exposing my knickers – white ones as requested.

“Bend over.”

I curve at the waist and feel the shame play with the blood in my cheeks.

The clinking starts again, two taps.

A silence where I don’t understand what is happening and then I feel it.

Heat and shock kisses my skin. He is pressing the heated teaspoon into my thigh. I gasp a little and try not to flinch. I meet the pain and feel it shoot adrenaline through my body.

The spoon clatters to the tile floor. He sips his tea and I wait, trembling, for his next instructions.

A big thank you to @blacknightseve for his suggestion, and for helping me recall this episode from my days as a submissive. It has been a pleasure to write and I hope you find it a pleasure to read.
Jenn x

Ten Things I Took Home From Eroticon

Back on the train this afternoon, my suitcase is full of beautiful things that I have won or bought or been gifted this weekend. My notebook is full of scribbles and ideas and a huge to-do list. My brain is completely full of possible blog posts and hopes for pitches. I am bringing so much home with me from this incredible weekend. 

Here are ten things I wanted to discuss in more detail. I have really challenged myself to be specific – the first draft of this post read more like an absolutely filthy Christmas carol:

“Four dildos buzzing,
Three books for research,
Two sexy t-shirts,
And a silk bag with samples of luuuuuube!”

But no, that song is for another time. I have narrowed down the items which have made this weekend special for me. I have so many examples I could have picked, and written this post several times over, each just as exciting and meaningful but this is the list that comes to me while I’m on my train and unable to lay out and admire all the beautiful things in my suitcase to remind me of what I’ve gained.

Ten – A Black Knotted Collar from Kink Craft

Part of a Saturday afternoon session, I spent an hour with Andrew and Pixie learning how to make a gorgeous collar. Andrew and Pixie were really patient and explained the process of making the collar in clear steps. After a full-on morning taking in loads of information I needed to unwind a little. The session was soothing and just what I needed. I was very proud of the finished product and it looks very nice around my neck if I do say so myself.

Nine – A Conversation About Squirting

Sunday lunch was spent in the company of Kayla, Leonora and Coffee and Kink – my newly-found sisters in sass. We had a great discussion about sex, knowing your body and female ejaculation. It was one of the many conversations I has this weekend which made me appreciate how important it is to actually meet people who work in this industry and share your sex-positivity. 

Eight – A Copy of The Eroticon Anthology

I met Victoria Blisse who was an absolute heroine and attended the book stall all weekend. I wandered over clutching a cup of green tea and asked to set it down on her beautiful bookstall so I could pick up all the books I wanted to own. I scored a copy of How To Have Sex by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock and a printed copy of The Eroticon Anthology. I contributed a little personal essay to the book and it is such a thrill to see my name in print. 

Seven – The Gift of Multitasking

I treated myself to a Ruby Glow – a sex toy for the seated lady. Tabitha Rayne, who created the Ruby Glow is an erotica writer and explained how she would be torn between keeping writing and taking a break for a lovely wank. Frustrated by the lack of toys which could help her to both at the same time she decided to create her own! The Ruby Glow is designed for sitting on and riding, so means your hands can be free to keep writing. I love this idea so much and can’t wait to sit on my new purchase. 

Six – The Possibility Of Writing For Others

I attended some really helpful sessions on pitching and have made many lists of possible editors and companies who might be open to my writing something for them. All that I need to do is believe in myself, make the strongest pitch possible and hope for the best. And keep writing of course. 

Five – An Inspirational Mug

Girl on the Net‘s mug which tells me “No one does what you do quite like you” was a lovely gift in our Eroticon goody bags. It shall sit on my desk as a tiny porcelain cheerleader for my individuality, talent and the possibility that I can write about the things I want to write about because nobody else can do it like I can. Cue the theme from the James Bond movie Nobody Does It Better…

Four – Practical Tips

Innocent Lover Boy delivered a fantastic session on How To Maintain A Healthy Blog on Sunday which discussed possible obstacles to writing. We identified the things that could be excuses and we shared how best to overcome them. It was great to speak with other people and hear similarities in their experiences, but also the great diversity of solutions that we can draw on to get past the blank page. Really helpful to take away some tangible best practices advice to apply to my work. 

Three – A Community To Write With

We’ve created this meme because I wanted to stay connected to the people I have met, to champion their writing and receive support and feedback in return. Meeting the human beings behind the Twitter feed has been very significant and I want to devour so many blogs and books because I have met the people behind them who are trying their best and exploring fascinating subjects and sharing their words with the world. 

Two – A Statement Necklace

Along with the delicious Ruby Glow, I received a free golden bullet vibrator necklace from Tabitha called the Ro-Val by Rocks Off. I’m the sort of girl who plans her outfits in advance and my Saturday outfit really could have done with a statement necklace, something chunky on a long chain or cord. Alas there wasn’t anything suitable for such a prestigious and sexy event. But now, I have the perfect statement necklace for future ensembles! 

One – A Fire Lit Under My Arse

In my meet and greet blog post I wrote that one of the things I wanted to get out of Eroticon 2017 was “a fire lit under my arse”. Molly kindly picked up on this in one of her pre-Eroticon tweets. I wanted to be inspired and feel energised about writing, to gain lots of ideas for new pieces and to understand more about the sex writing industry. 

I am so happy to say that the fire is lit and it is burning bright. I’m on such a high after this weekend and I want to write all the things, all at once. So now I’m taking steps to write down every idea, every impulse and keep the embers glowing as much as I can. Sometimes there is kindling which comes from others. I hope to give them something in return – maybe a call to action to write up their ten favourite things from Eroticon? 

This weekend has been one of the most valuable experiences for my writing and I can’t wait to purchase my ticket for next year. A huge thank you to all the speakers, the amazing delegates and to Molly’s Daily Kiss, DomSigns and Girl On The Net for their fantastic organisation.

Happy Eroticon everybody!

Seventeenth Post: Purple Prose: Bisexuality in Britain

Today Purple Prose: Bisexuality in Britain is published. 

I contributed a couple of passages to this book and attended the fundraising party last year to read these out loud. 

I backed the crowdfunding campaign and received my advance copy which I have loved browsing through. To read a collection of experiences and observations from bisexuals in the UK is really important. Within the book there is an amazing range of perspectives and I recommend this to anyone interested in learning about bisexuality or exploring their own sexuality.

Check out an early review from The Book Bag for more details.
It was great to be part of this project and to meet Katy Harrad, the editor, who has worked incredibly hard to bring this representation of British bisexuality to print. I also met some of the contributors, the chapter editors and Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux, who own publishing company Thortree Press.

Their collection of published work is fabulous and I’ve had the pleasure of unexpectedly reading Frankin’s own book, The Game Changer.

Please check out Purple Prose (print and kindle versions are available) on Amazon or via publisher Thorntree Press’ website.